Thursday, June 10, 2021

Parshas Korach 5781

 

 “RABBI’S MUSINGS (& AMUSINGS)”

Erev Shabbos Kodesh parshas Korach

1 Tamuz 5781/June 11, 2021

Rosh Chodesh Tamuz – Avos perek 4

 

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לזכר נשמת זקנתי מורתי פרומה בת ליבר ע"ה – יארצייט ל' סיון (א' דר"ח תמוז)

לרפואה שלימה נטע יצחק בן רחל

 

ARE WE HERE YET

 

            Last shabbos, we headed up to the mountains to participate in a wonderful shabbatone with the ninth and tenth grades of Heichal HaTorah. The car was packed up with linen, luggage, and half our children (the rest went to their grandparents).

            We left early Friday afternoon just as a summer rainstorm began. The highway was congested, and traffic was moving slowly as rain pounded the car. That was when one of our children asked me for the first time, “are we almost there yet? What time are we getting there?” I answered as patiently as I could by pointing to the time on display on Waze, which was open on the dashboard. But I decided to shut off Waze because I was familiar with the directions. A moment later I was asked again what time we were getting there, and then again and then again. I must admit that my patience was sapped, and I reassured the questioner that we wouldn’t get there any faster because of the persistent questioning and badgering.

            When driving somewhere, the point is to get to the destination. There are various ways we try to keep ourselves entertained or mentally busy while en-route including talking on the phone, and listening to music, radio, lectures, or podcasts. But the main point is to sit in the car until you arrive at your destination.

            But there are many other journeys we undertake in life which aren’t just about arriving at the destination. In fact, it’s been noted that in many instances the journey is the destination. This is surely true regarding personal and spiritual growth.

            The tragic story of the spies is one of the great calamities in our early history. It was on the night of Tisha B’av when our ancestors rejected Eretz Yisroel, foreshadowing that day as a time of pain and mourning.

            But the truth is that only fifty percent of the nation rejected the land. Rashi (Bamidbar 36:6) relates that the women had a greater love of the land. In fact, Kli Yakar writes that if only Moshe had sent women to spy out the land the whole crisis would’ve been averted.

            It’s hard to imagine that loving the land is gender based. What does it mean that women loved the land more than men?

            At a graduation for the girls of the Yeshiva of Greater Washington, Rabbi Aharon Lopianksy suggested the following: Conquering Eretz Yisroel is an arduous and challenging process. The entire nation originally marched forth from Egypt full of excitement to enter the Promised Land. But when they realized the daunting challenges, they would face and would need to traverse in order to conquer the land, the men lost heart. It wasn’t that they lacked love of the land per se. Rather, they were shortsighted and only saw the immediate challenges they would need to face.

            The day after the spies gave their negative report, Moshe told the nation מחר - tomorrow turn back towards the Yam Suf. Their sin was rooted in their inability to see past the moment. They lacked a vision of tomorrow, of what would occur if they would be able to follow through and overcame the challenges.

            Women on the other hand, have a different temperament. A woman possesses a רחם - womb. רחם has the same letters as מחר - tomorrow. A woman carries a child for nine painful and uncomfortable months. She bears it all by remaining focused on the end result - the moment she will clutch her newborn in her arms. Women more naturally live with a sense of tomorrow.

            If the women had spied the land, they would have seen past the immediate challenges and would have been able to envision the future time when each person would “sit in security under his grapevine and under his fig tree.” (Melochim I 5:5)

            I can personally relate to this concept. When we were doing construction on our kitchen a few years ago, and my wife would discuss the plans with me, I honestly had no idea what she was talking about. I would do my best to listen and try to understand but I couldn’t really picture how things would look until it was actually done. I don’t have the ability to envision the final product based on raw plans. (I should add that I have gotten much better in the last few years. Since the construction finished a few years ago, I have a perfect vision of what it looks like.)

            Success in life is contingent on being able to see past immediate struggles and challenges. One must have a vision of what reaching his goals will look like so that he can chart his plan to get there.

            Part of the greatness of the Jewish people has been our ability to always see beyond our immediate challenges and to always maintain hope for better times.

            During our trip up to the mountains last week we weren’t actually there yet until we pulled into our destination. In life however, in a sense wherever we are, we have arrived. We search for opportunities for growth in the moment, while at the same time continuing to hope and dream of greater times that are coming.

 

            Shabbat Shalom & Good Shabbos,

            R’ Dani and Chani Staum       

    

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