Thursday, March 17, 2011


Erev Shabbos Kodesh Parshas Tzav/Zachor/PURIM

12 Adar II 5771/March 18, 2011


No this is not a discussion about shaitels or a new recipe for Potato Kugel (delicious, yet fat free). Actually it is my chance to finally get to express my opinions for once.

While I am sure you all enjoy reading the Rabbi’s weekly Musings, I have a little bit of a different perspective about the column. For most people it is enjoyable to read about lessons that there are gleaned from someone else’s daily foibles and events. But for me it’s unnerving. You see if I come home from the supermarket and forget something, I land up in a musings. If I burn a cake (which never happens) I end up in a Musings. If my car stalls in the parking lot with the kids screaming, guess what that week’s Musings will be about?

Then there is the added frustration of the Rabbi taking credit. One of the original Musings was about when I myself took our children for professional pictures. In that week’s Musings (please circle one:) my husband/the Rabbi/Dani wrote about how we took the children for pictures. When I read it I asked him “Who’s we Kemo-Sabe? As far as I know I took the kids myself?” He replied that since my name is affixed to the bottom he has to write it that way.

The truth is that the weekly Musings has had a wonderful impact upon our entire family. Now whenever anything unusual happens, instead of brushing it off, we stop and think about it. “Hey that would make an interesting Musings.” Then we ponder what lesson we can derive from what occurred.

We (well really Dani, but since my name is affixed to the bottom…) often says that he wonders whether more amazing things happen to Ba’alei Tshuva or is it just that they are more in-tune to seeing the Hand of G-d in their lives?

Isn’t that the main message of Purim? Our Sages relate that every time the Megillah says “Hamelech – the King” (without saying Achashveirosh’s name) it is a clandestine reference to G-d. The Megillah teaches us to identify G-d, even - or rather especially - when He uses ‘pen-names’.

The weekly Musings has definitely had that type of positive impact on our lives. Everything contains a message and G-d signs His Name around us constantly. But we have to search for it.

Still-in-all I would feel more comfortable if the Musings did not have to tell everyone about our family’s personal idiosyncrasies and quirks.

I would have to say that the zaniest part of all is that the same person who often writes about what happens to me is now writing what he assumes I think about his weekly Musings. If you don’t understand what I mean, let me ask you, who do you think really wrote this? (I don’t even know what half of his words mean!)

Shabbat Shalom & Good Shabbos

Freilichen Purim & Purim Sameach

Chani and Dani Staum